For a boss, being vulnerable doesn’t mean oversharing. But in fact, trust consists in stacking small moments - the moments when we are vulnerable, and someone helps us out or accepts us the way we are. Trying to figure out what comes first, trust or vulnerability sounds like the chicken-egg debate. This means removing vulnerability and emotions out of professional life. You can engineer uncertainty out of vulnerability.Humans are hardwired for connection we literally need each other to live a full life. Saying “I don’t need anyone”, we lie to ourselves. If we don’t let ourselves be vulnerable, we’ll let fear drive our thinking, and end up shutting down. In a conversation with special operation soldiers, Brown asked them a simple question: could they provide an example they’d experienced or witnessed that didn’t require courage? The answer was – no, definitely not. This is a popular belief, but it’s not correct. Brown calls these prejudices the Six Myths of Vulnerability: It’s uncomfortable besides, we’re full of prejudices against this feeling. This is why we usually avoid vulnerability by all means. So what’s vulnerability? Brown explains it as “the emotion that we experience during times of uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Vulnerable experiences are never easy, and to show up without “armor” - without self-protecting mechanisms of different kinds – is pretty scary. The Moment and the Myths Daring is saying “I know I will eventually fail, and I’m still all in.” I’ve never met a brave person who hasn’t known disappointment, failure, even heartbreak. In our “Dare to Lead” summary, we’ll explain the main principles of daring leadership – which is, in Brown’s interpretation, leadership that requires exposure to emotions and courage to live them through. Brown discusses an unusual idea that a great leader has to be vulnerable, which challenges the typical image of a boss as a cold and distant person. She doesn’t talk about productivity techniques for outstanding results she talks about the psychology of relationships in a business environment. Whole Hearts” by Brené Brown is about leadership – but leadership with a human face. But it’s your choice whose voice you’ll focus on. Of course, these guests won’t react the same way to your speech: someone will applaud or nod compassionately, and someone will boo.
The arena is full of seats, but these seats are not for ordinary guests: some of the tickets have been bought by shame, some – by comparison and self-doubt, and some – by courage and empathy. Imagine that you’re giving a speech on stage.
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